• ickplant@lemmy.worldOP
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    3 days ago

    The only negative I see on here is “history of cheating.”

    I could also see how “Girl Boss” can be negative, but not in a way he means it. He just means women who believe in working outside the home.

    Edit: ok, smoking too - if we are talking cigarettes or meth. Smoke all the weed you want.

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      2 days ago

      Depending on how “refuses to cook” comes across, that’s a negative in my book. I won’t want to cook every meal, I’d burn out. It’s a requirement that they are at least willing to do it sometimes. (I like cooking, but some days are just overly draining and I need help)

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        2 days ago

        I dated a rich girl for a while who didnt cook, none of her family could. They had a part time maid who would cook for them a bit but mostly ate out and brought home extra meals. Like literally, every time they went out they’d order a couple extra meals to go.

        At one point the mom was sad she couldnt get shrimp scampi anywhere in town. So I cooked dinner for them, because NBD. They thought it was magic, doubly so because im a guy. I litterally had to remove the plastic wrapping off the inside of the oven door to make garlic bread, and all the pots and pans still had stickers in the bottom.

        At one pojnt I also had to teach my 38 year old GF how to operate a washer and dryer.

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      2 days ago

      “History of cheating” doesn’t necessarily mean “cheater.” To those on a trajectory to make a mistake, far better lessons come from those who made mistakes and can explain how to avoid them than those who can only say, “don’t make mistakes.” I’m sure there’s a better way to say this than the clumsy words I’ve chosen.