…presumably violations of existing law … changing policy … They are not the same.
This is kind of bonkers. Women’s advocacy doesn’t split this hair, gay advocacy doesn’t split this hair, trans advocacy doesn’t split this hair, racial advocacy doesn’t split this hair. The challenges facing any identity or demographic group are often only weakly affected by the law.
All of the problems listed are cultural problems, problems caused in no small part by men’s own values and attitudes about what manhood should be.
In a comment last week somewhere, I posted about a 68 year old man who told me he had been raped by a man when he was a child.
this 68 year old man, is an old biker dude whos been in and out of jail, now sober 15+ years, however, he cannot get through two sentences without making a sexual joke about women.
for example, a mild example, we were ording dinner for a group, and my sister went up to him with the menu to ask him what he wanted from the resturant, he responded, “a red head, a blonde, and a brunette with a big ass”.
the day we creamated my father, I had had enough. I yelled at him for this innapropriate habit. he stopped. i was so happy he stopped. but I had to bring up ive been raped to get him to stop though. dumb, but he was repectful after.
then, he told me later that day, or the next I dont remember, he told me verbatiem, that making those jokes is how he copes with the trauma first listed in this comment.
and jokes like this help him through all traumas.
tell me how, after being best friends with my father, for 45 years, he had no idea he gave up his rights to 3/4 children, and the one he kept, he denied being his until she was 13? The shock on his so called best friends face, not knowing most of us werent legally his best friends children, only biologically, shocked me. He had no idea his best friend gave up all his children, and thats why we were estranged.
maybe making jokes as the only form of coping, isnt coping, but masking real issues.
This is kind of bonkers. Women’s advocacy doesn’t split this hair, gay advocacy doesn’t split this hair, trans advocacy doesn’t split this hair, racial advocacy doesn’t split this hair. The challenges facing any identity or demographic group are often only weakly affected by the law.
All of the problems listed are cultural problems, problems caused in no small part by men’s own values and attitudes about what manhood should be.
Id like to add comment, as I agree with you.
In a comment last week somewhere, I posted about a 68 year old man who told me he had been raped by a man when he was a child.
this 68 year old man, is an old biker dude whos been in and out of jail, now sober 15+ years, however, he cannot get through two sentences without making a sexual joke about women.
for example, a mild example, we were ording dinner for a group, and my sister went up to him with the menu to ask him what he wanted from the resturant, he responded, “a red head, a blonde, and a brunette with a big ass”.
the day we creamated my father, I had had enough. I yelled at him for this innapropriate habit. he stopped. i was so happy he stopped. but I had to bring up ive been raped to get him to stop though. dumb, but he was repectful after.
then, he told me later that day, or the next I dont remember, he told me verbatiem, that making those jokes is how he copes with the trauma first listed in this comment.
and jokes like this help him through all traumas.
tell me how, after being best friends with my father, for 45 years, he had no idea he gave up his rights to 3/4 children, and the one he kept, he denied being his until she was 13? The shock on his so called best friends face, not knowing most of us werent legally his best friends children, only biologically, shocked me. He had no idea his best friend gave up all his children, and thats why we were estranged.
maybe making jokes as the only form of coping, isnt coping, but masking real issues.