I’ve been with my boyfriend since 2024. Our relationship has to be on the down low / an open secret because dating isn’t permissible among his people. His family says they really like me, but they’d never accept me as his wife since I’m not Arab, maybe as a second wife, but the first wife has to be someone they approve of. I don’t want to be a second wife. I’m with him despite all of this because he treats me great, fucks me good, and gets me (he’s very open-minded and chill, and I feel fully comfortable with him). But I know he won’t go against his family for me because of $$$.
I had a relationship that lasted 3 years. I didn’t think we had no future, but lasting 10 was pretty unlikely. I still learned things that made my future relationships better. While I have some regrets, I’m still overall glad about the relationship.
If you’re getting something of value, it can be worth sticking around. If you’re just having fun and that’s what all parties involved are looking for, that’s fine, too, imo. Ultimately, you have to decide if it’s worth it to you to stick around.