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  • Binette@lemmy.mltoMental Health@lemmy.world•Me: "I feel depressed because I lack maternal love"; Mom: "But what about those that don't have mothers?"; What the hell is this reponse? 🤔English
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    22 days ago

    People often think there is an intrinsic link between their assigned titles and their character. A mother is always motherly by the etymology of the word, right? People rely on these labels to give themselves, by association with the labels, the positive traits that are attributed to them. No need to prove you’re compationate, because you’re a mother, so it goes without saying. It’s some kind of cognitive shortcut.

    So someone who doesn’t have a mother, according to yours, does not get to experience motherly love. And someone that has a mother immediately does. Even if the mother is extremely abusive, there is this belief that under all of that abuse, there was still “motherly love”. After all, your mother will always love you no matter what, because that’s how mothers are. All of these qualities are attached to someone who gave birth to a child without it necessarily being true.

    I do remember you posting about your mother before. I’m not sure if your question was retorical, but nevertheless you kinda know the answer already, right? And even then, it doesn’t seem like arguing back is possible. I’m not sure why you’d be asking here either.