• Xerxos@lemmy.ml
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    1 month ago

    I have seen the same message often, although slightly different. Like “Don’t teach girls how to avoid being raped, teach boys not to rape!”. Always trying to make the message with slight humor.

    If telling people not to rape would be enough, there would be no rapists.

    Is there really anyone out there who doesn’t know that raping someone is fucked up?

    Do they think there are rapists out there, who aresimply not aware of that? “Oh, I didn’t know, my bad.”

    There are evil people everywhere. People without empathy. People who only think of themselves. Trying to “teach” them? Good luck.

    Teach girls how to defend themselves. Make people aware of the signs of abuse. Call the police and help whoever you can, because rapists won’t disappear by telling them not to. They need to be caught and put behind bars, for the rest of their life.

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      1 month ago

      Is there really anyone out there who doesn’t know that raping someone is fucked up?

      Everyone agrees rape is bad. But there are plenty of people with a very narrow definition of rape. They think rape is only when someone forces themselves against a kicking and screaming victim. Teaching young boys not to rape means teaching them about consent, how to confirm it, knowing it can be revoked at any time. It means calling out your friend’s bad behavior. Also, we can still teach girls to defend themselves too. Nobody is saying we shouldn’t do that. Just that it shouldn’t be considered the main solution. That’s a victim-blaming mindset that minimizes all of the social norms enabling rape and sexual violence.

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        1 month ago

        Of course we should teach kids about consent! Of course we should not blame the victim! That was not the point of my post.

        The message I hate is “don’t use these tips to minimize the chances to be raped, just teach boys not to rape”, as if that would be so easy. This meme is the same, making fun of useful tips.