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Alternatively, “No” is a complete sentence.
Not when your lack of spoons is compounded by social anxiety…
“I don’t have capacity.”
Yes, gotta use the right words if you want to communicate effectively.
Yes you use the word “No”
Anything more invites discussion.
So why not day “I’d like to, but I’m exhausted.”
This sounds like not knowing how to communicate rather than an add problem.
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I figure I don’t have time unless I get 8 hours of sleep and still have the time. This never happens, so the answer is “never”.
Sometimes I want a hug from someone that can afford one, but instead I’m giving out hugs to everyone else that needs it. And that’s just these unplanned days.
Sometimes it’s those that can’t afford the hug, that need one the most…?
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You don’t have the time if that “empty” time is allocated for recovery. Downtime is not free time.
Time allotted for rest is still time that is already accounted for which is unable to be spent elsewhere.
There shouldn’t be any confusion.
If your schedule is not actually fully booked you have the time, ADHD or not…you don’t have the energy, which is something entirely different, but also valid.
People don’t always speak literally. So trying to be pedantic about the literal meaning of “time” when they were using it non-lierally doesn’t make you more right.
They conveyed “no” which was the actual important part of the message
Saying you have no time when it’s actually lack of energy is just poor communication skills, it’s not about being literal.
If the message they’re communicating is “no” and not the exact details of why they’re saying no, “I don’t have time” is perfectly adequate. Everyone isn’t entitled to the exact details of why someone is refusing to do something. I’m not telling you if I’m refusing because I have severe diarrhea.
I would argue saying anything except “No” is poor communication skills.
If you aren’t willing to negotiate then don’t give them anything to negotiate on.
Social skills arent always about being as literal as possible, they can also be about navigating social situations with as little friction as needed to inform others and achieve your goals.
Saying “no” to your boss and having them accept it would be ideal, but is generally unrealistic. Saying “I dont have time” or “im booked out” achieves the same goal that flat truth will not by making it look like you will negotiate when you wont.
